The BEST thing you can do for your children is to love your spouse. You’ve probably heard that somewhere before, but it’s not only worth saying again, it’s worth saying often. For one thing, you are modeling marriage for your children. How will they ever pick good partners and create good marriages if they’ve never seen it modeled? YOU and your spouse are teaching them how to behave in a marriage, so don’t just give them a good example, make it a great one. Kiss your spouse in front of them. Flirt a little. You don’t have to show them the private areas, but you should show them the affection you have for your spouse. AND, another thing, part of making children feel “safe” is making sure they know your family unit is SAFE. This is more than not being abusive toward your spouse, it’s letting them see your little disagreements and that you not only work them out, you do it with love. Let them see you have differences of opinion, and still love each other like mad. They need to see conflict managed well. One more thing and I’ll stop for now…. Loving your spouse in the presence of your children includes past relationships as well. If your spouse was previously married, you need to “love” those ex-es and their new spouses as well. You don’t have to be lovey-dovey, but you do have to be cordial. If there are animosities or bad feelings, keep them out of the children’s sight. In our present age of blended families, this becomes more important all the time. It even stretches back into grandparents and blending. Children have a sixth sense for disharmony -- don’t let them find it in your family.